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Everybody wants more confidence. Wouldn’t it be nice if there were six traits that could double yours? Going over those in This weeks book review: The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem.

The 6 Pillars of Self-Esteem is a classic book by Nathaniel Branden. This book summary and book review of "The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem" will go over the BEST 10 IDEAS from Nathaniel Branden's book. You might also consider getting the full book or audiobook for this – it’s killer!


★★★ BIG 10 IDEAS ★★★

1. Arrogance vs. Self Esteem
Put your mask on first. Can’t give what don’t have. Arrogance is comparison-based (ironically a sign for rather low self-esteem)
Self-esteem is self-love based (taking joy in being who you are without the need of comparing yourself to another person)

2. Kill Your Inner Pessimist
Signs of low self esteem: A) Self fulfilling prophecies B) Self sabotage C) Nothing is enough
Confidence is not automatic state. Brain 2M years old designed to keep us alive. Looking for what’s wrong constantly. RE WIRE THIS = confidence.

3. PILLAR I: Living Consciously
TAKE AWAY: Don’t live life on autopilot. Practice awareness.
EX: 32,850 - number of days till 90. The days are LONG but the years are SHORT.


4. PILLAR II: Self-Acceptance
EX: Tighten up or Loosen up? Stop beating yourself up! Only animal punishes ourselves repeatedly for same mistake. Improve on what you CAN change - forgive what you CAN’T. Would you hang out with you? Voice in head. (kick ass if someone that negative!)

5. PILLAR III: Self-Responsibility
STUDY: Shock experiment - Learned helplessness = Dog's response. Non-victim. Control over your life. I am 100% responsible. I am 100% in control.

6. PILLAR IV: Self-Assertivness
Stand up for yourself. Believe in you.
IN BOOK: Affirmation: “My life does not belong to others and I am not here on earth to live up to someone else’s expectations.”

7. PILLAR V: Living Purposefully
Have a goal - strive twoards things in life. Grow or die.
CTA: Need clarity! Journal about this. UGTKAJ - and definitely do the 11 questions to change your life.

8. PILLAR VI: Personal Integrity
STORY: Coach playing sports stuck with me: “Clark, character is what you do when no one is looking”. Voice ringing in my head - wash dish in sink or leave for roommate to find. Go extra mile at work even though won’t get credit. Put effort in at check out even though leave in 20sec.


9. Ditch The Need to Look Important
“To find it humiliating to admit an error is a certain sign of a flawed self-esteem.” ~ Nathaniel Branden

10. Top Affirmations and Mindsets
I have a right to exist.
I am of high value to myself.
I have a right to honor my needs and wants, to treat them as important.
I am not here on earth to live up to someone else’s expectations; my life belongs to me. (Also, no one is here to live up to my expectations.)
I do not regard myself as anyone else’s property and I do not regard anyone else as my property.
I am lovable.
I am admirable.
I deserve to be treated courteously and with respect by everyone.
If people treat me discourteously or disrespectfully, it is a reflection on them, not on me. It is only a reflection on me if I accept their treatment of me as right.
If someone I like does not return my feeling, it may be disappointing or even painful, but it is not a reflection of my personal worth.
No other individual or group has the power to determine how I will think and feel about myself.
I am worthy of happiness.
I am “enough”.
I am able to rise again from defeat.
I have a right to make mistakes; that is one of the ways I learn. Mistakes are not grounds for self-damnation.

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